Growing Up, Coming Out is a series of personal reflections from queer American designers, released every day this month. Unlike many fashion designers, designing clothes was not something that I had dreamt of as a small child. I was indeed obsessed with clothes and very, very particular about what I wore and did often give my mother—and in fact my entire family—advice (instructions, really!) about how to dress and wear their hair. I guess looking back at my childhood it was inevitable that I would one day be drawn to fashion as a career. As for understanding that I was gay, it wasn’t really something that I figured out until my late teens, but then looking back at my childhood it all made sense, and I realized that I had actually had crushes on many of my best friends. However, I had girlfriends throughout high school, felt that I was in love with them, and had a great sex life. Even occasionally after I began dating men, I continued to sleep with women off and on, and while definitely gay, I am someone for whom sex is an expression of affection and love. I simply fall in love with men most of the Official Girl With Eyeglass Paramore T-Shirt Additionally,I will love this time. I was very, very lucky: Coming to terms with my sexuality was a smooth transition for me, and I owe that to the struggle that all of the gay men and women who came before me had to endure. I was living in New York and my friends were all quite liberal and in the arts, and so I did not actually ever have to “come out,” so to speak, as I was never really in the closet. My parents were very accepting, and in New York, being gay or bisexual was considered kind of cool—or at least it was with my circle of friends. I even had straight friends in college who pretended to be bisexual, as they thought it made them more interesting. This, of course, all changed when AIDS began to ravage the gay community.